As a caregiver to someone with dementia, you can think you’re on solid ground. You step, but sand begins to shift under your feet. Scientifically speaking, the friction between the sand particles diminishes so it can no longer support your weight.

All you know is that it feels like falling, completely and totally out of control.

It happens when you least expect it.

It happens when your body is tightened against it.

This person you care for has changed. Roles are upside down.

Those who were parents are now children, in need of care.

They may question your intentions, they may not recognize you, or they may fear you.  It hurts so very deeply. How could anyone possibly understand or help you?


Like quicksand, if you struggle alone you may drown.

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